Motherhood: A View from Some of the Moms across Gray
A mom is a special gift. It seems no matter how young or how old you are, a mom is that person in your life who knows how to love and support you in a unique and endearing way. A mom is not something you ever really outgrow. But, being a mom comes with its challenges. And being a mom who is raising a family while working a job at the same time is no small task.
Here at Gray, we are filled with women who proudly wear the mom badge. These women are distinguished professionals who excel in their jobs, all the while raising (or, in some cases, already raised) leaders at home.
We were given the opportunity to speak with some of our Gray moms about how they balance working and raising a family, their advice to new moms, and some of the women who inspire them.
How do you maintain a healthy work-life balance?
Rita Clark, Application Support Administrator, mother of two boys – “It’s managing the balance of wanting to be the best mom, wife, daughter, and wanting to succeed in your professional life. Admittedly, we sometimes put too much emphasis on our title and the amount of income we must provide our children for the material items they need. Sometimes, the best thing we can provide our children is invaluable – it’s our time and unconditional love.”
Danielle Clements, Senior Administrative Assistant, mother of one boy – “Having a newborn, they are only awake short periods of time and the days go by fast. I set certain times of the day that is my uninterrupted time with my son and husband. I’m trying to soak up all the baby snuggles while I can!”
Yukie Cooper, Manager, Business Development, mother of two girls – “Over time, I have learned to enjoy what I’m doing at each moment and not worry about what I will have to do later. Worrying will be a distraction and will keep you from living. I try not to worry about my girls’ whereabouts when I am at work, and I try not to think about tomorrow’s meeting agenda when I spend time with my family and friends.”
If you could give a new, working mom advice on how to balance work and home life, what would you tell her?
Betsy Wynkoop, Administrative Assistant at Spencer Bristol, A Gray Company, mother of one girl – “It matters that you attend the things in your child’s life. I think it means more to take half days at work and be sure that you never miss any school function rather than to take a big, week-long family vacation. They remember you being there.”
Clark – “Don’t try to be perfect; it’s not possible. Focus on what’s important. And in today’s world, it may mean less social media posting or not planning the birthday party that requires an event planner. Focus on your family, faith, and yourself.”
Clements – “Funny enough, I am a new, working mom! To all my fellow working mommas out there, work hard so you can soak up all the moments you can at home with your new baby. Also, enjoy your work! I look forward each day I am in the office at Gray, because for me, working and being surrounded by people I enjoy makes me a better mom when I leave.”
Do you have any favorite Mother’s Day traditions in your family?
Cooper – “My two daughters give me handmade Mother’s Day cards every year. They surprise me every year with very creative, sweet cards. The collection of the cards they have made for me is my most precious possession.”
Wynkoop – “We always try to do some sort of activity that will create a memory – hiking, baseball game, NHRA drag race (my pick)!”
What women in your life have inspired you?
Clements – “My mother and stepmom hands down! They are the most inspiring women I know, and I am the woman, mother, daughter, and worker I am today because of them.”
Clark – “My mother, maternal grandmother, and three aunts. They all inspire me for various reasons, particularly their life, their wisdom, and their love that have empowered me to achieve various goals, pattern myself to the person I want to be, and persevere through some life struggles.”
Do you have one favorite memory of parenthood that you’d like to share?
Cooper – “My two daughters have completely different personalities, and they never spent time together growing up. But a few years ago, they started bonding, and now they are literally inseparable. It is priceless to see them being so loving and supporting each other.”
Wynkoop – “I have two, but they are more a series of memories. Every night since my daughter was born, I have read to her, and I wouldn’t trade our 20-minute ride to school every morning for any amount of money in the world. We have covered just about every topic there is – politics, music, movies, religion, books, friends, relationships, and so much more!”
Clements – “One funny memory is that my husband and I changed every diaper together for the first few weeks, because we didn’t know what we were doing. Talk about sleep deprivation!”
If you could describe motherhood in one word, what would it be?
Cooper – “Selfless. The moment you become a mother, you are no longer the same you. Suddenly you have somebody more important than yourself.”
Clements – “Resilience.”
Clark – “The most challenging, difficult, important, aggravating-yet-fulfilling, rewarding role I have ever held. My two sons are beyond what I dreamed of when I was young and knew I wanted to be a mom. They have filled my heart with so much love and pride. I would not give up being a mom for a billion dollars.”
Wynkoop – “Electric.”